Let’s define trauma as when an event/person has wrecked you emotionally, physically, spiritually, or mentally. Trauma can fricking decimate an individual’s life and relationships. People (such as, I dunno…me from childhood to 2017) who have experienced trauma (such as abuse, neglect, loss, etc.) may have their guard up so high they ride the struggle bus trying to trust anyone. Inability to regulate emotions may be the star of their show, and/or it could be establishing healthy boundaries. As a result of all this chicanery, they struggle to form and maintain stable and nourishing relationships.